Men’s Work

Ownership. Integrity. Relationships. Practice.

Developmental work for men who are willing to look honestly at how they live, relate and lead.

Facilitating a men’s retreat session

The work begins with seeing ourselves clearly

Many men reach a point where the question is no longer whether life looks successful from the outside. It is whether the way they are actually living — as a partner, father, friend, leader or man — reflects what they say matters to them.

My work with men is concerned with what happens when we become more willing to see ourselves clearly: the patterns we repeat, the responsibilities we avoid, the ways we relate to others and the gap that can emerge between the man we intend to be and the way we actually live.

The work is not simply about insight. It is about taking greater ownership of our choices and putting what we discover into practice — in our relationships, work, leadership and everyday lives.

Flagship men's programme

The Man in the Mirror

A sustained coaching container for men willing to examine the patterns shaping their relationships, choices and sense of self — combining group coaching, individual coaching and intentional practices, and culminating in an immersive five-day in-person retreat in the Kent countryside. The work is held by three movements:

The Mirror

See clearly before you act — seeing yourself, and the impact you are having, honestly.

The Man

Lead yourself before you lead others — full responsibility, integrity, steady presence.

The Frame

Hold steady under pressure — grounded and clear when life brings challenge or conflict.

A man facing his own reflection in a mirror

A group webinar session of The Man in the Mirror men's programme

1:1 Coaching & Mentorship

Cornerstone

A highly personalised, high-touch one-to-one coaching container for men who want sustained work around relationships, leadership, direction, responsibility and the patterns shaping how they show up in their lives.

Intensive individual coaching
Carefully curated practices and resources
Support between sessions where it serves the work
Sustained attention to your development and the work you are undertaking

Oliver on the lawn in front of the countryside retreat venue

Retreats & Groups

Small-group spaces combining reflection, honest conversation, challenge, practice and shared experience.

Small groups, in person and online
Retreats held at a private countryside venue in Kent — private rooms, open fires, spacious communal spaces

Oliver presenting to the group during a retreat

Oliver with training partners at his Brazilian Jiu Jitsu gym

On the mats

Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and men’s work

I am a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu black belt, and I coach on the mats at my local gym in Brighton. Jiu jitsu has been one of my own most important classrooms: a place where pressure, humility, discipline and honest feedback are unavoidable — and where men learn a great deal about themselves very quickly.

The connection between the mats and men’s work — composure under pressure, respect, persistence, and the kind of confidence that doesn’t need to prove itself — is something I am actively developing as part of this work, and an area I intend to carry forward in future groups and retreats.

The work in the room